Life lessons are taught every day but you have to be listening to hear them. My life has become much like the weather in Iowa; always changing. The people you counted on yesterday, may not be there tomorrow and people you never considered, step out of the shadows to provided needed words of encouragement at opportune times. Everything changes.
I am facing a number of difficult times. My parents are aging and seeing the end of their lives. I have disrupted our family to the point where the potential is there to inflict irreversible damage. I believe in the choices I have made going forward yet the collateral damage continues to catch me off-guard. The low point is using kids as pawns and a weapons to hurt me when I believe I did nothing wrong other than to leave. I will work to forgive but I will never forget.
I find it interesting that people soon forget what support a parents, family, friends or a company give you. People who are the most outspoken and critical are people hiding from their own issues. I am far from perfect and make many mistakes every day but I do my best to understand circumstances, not be judgmental and to be fair. I show absolute respect for what my parents have given me and would never do anything in my lifetime to intentionally hurt them. I cannot understand any one who would shutdown, shut out or walk away from their parents.
I go into my day with the intention of doing my best to heal wounds, help where it is needed without enabling my adult children. This is an opportunity for growth and my time to offer advice but not to bail them out of difficult situations they have created. As a parent, I will always be there not matter what they throw at me. There will come a time when they need me and my role is to be there. Love doesn't run.